The Art of Possibility
"The Blind Leading the Blind"
"If your jurney to nowhere your life will nowhere"

Read it

The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable man persist in trying to adapt the world to himself - Bernard Shaw

In first instance you will think , this unreasonable man is stupid, try to change world according to him. Okey ……

Now again read it

The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable man persist in trying to adapt the world to himself, there fore , all progress depends on the
unreasonable man - Bernard Shaw

Same in life, how you think make big difference. How you think about certain incident / situation make big difference.  So think Constructive, not destructive.

**Love While You Live**
Realize things before its too late.
Accept things rather than deny them.
Love people before you loose them.
Life comes just once.
Love it while you live it.* * *
S/he not the best
but S/he not like the rest
~~~ Try to create balance always , extreme of any thing is always bad ~~~

 We all know this all saying , still why  certain situation happen again and again  , how things creep into your life without you notice it ………………

Every day we have about 50,000 thoughts.
Our thoughts determine our actions – and our actions create results.

Here"s the problem …

when you keep having the same thoughts - you keep getting the same results!
You stay trapped in an endless circle of …

Your old thoughts are like roadblocks.
The only way to enjoy more success and  more happiness is to break the cycle!

The problem is that we all use our inner assumptions and beliefs to make decisions. We are driven by motivations and values that are outside our own awareness.

What are we talking abouthere? Surely, age and experience provides self-knowledge and a certain wisdom. Most people know themselves pretty well and are able to set goals and make decisions that are in line with who they are. Well, most successful people have this ability, at least part of the time…and therein lies the problem. Sometimes our beliefs and assumptions are faulty or out of date. Yet we rarely take time
to update our assumptions and beliefs –they are too ingrained. Let’s define
further here what we need to discuss:

Beliefs

Beliefs are the assumptions we make about ourselves, about others in the world and about how we expect things to be. Beliefs are about how we think things really are, what we think is really true and what therefore to expect as likely consequences that will
follow from our behavior.

Values

Values are about how we have learned to think things ought to be or people ought to behave, especially in terms of qualities such as honesty, integrity and openness.

Basic Assumptions

Basic assumptions are our automatic responses and established opinions. We are almost always unaware of the nature of our own basic assumptions, but they are enacted through our behavior – what we say and do. Basic assumptions are usually rooted in infancy and early family and social life. Assumptions shaping our behavior also come
from cultural context.

Attitudes

Attitudes are the established ways of responding to people and situations that we have learned, based on the beliefs, values and assumptions we hold. Attitudes become manifest through our behavior. There are two kinds of beliefs that operate behind the scenes, so to speak:

1. Empowering beliefs:
these are related to excellence and how it can be achieved.

these are the beliefs that limit you; even though your behavior is not what you
want, you don’t believe you can change.

Many of the situations that block us in our daily lives do so based on a framework of assumptions we make. Draw a different frame about the same set of circumstances and new pathways come into view.
 

A coach can help you see what you can’t see yourself.

The Questions that Challenge

One of the best ways to surface underlying assumptions and beliefs with your coach is to drill down with a series of questions. You make a statement, and your coach asks, “What’s important about that to you?” You answer.

The coach continues to ask, “And,

until you surface the most important and essential beliefs about yourself and your world.

To explore further, the coach would ask about how you formed that belief, where it comes from. This exploratory discussion usually reveals an experience in childhood or early on in a career. There is a history around every belief, both the empowering ones
and the limiting ones. But we rarely examine them to see if they are appropriate for what is going on in the present.

Both our social and work habits have been built on these assumptions. Even our relationships and marriages operate on beliefs formed from our early histories. And while circumstances change, their continued use reconfirms the old beliefs – they
often still feel right to us. We keep on doing what we have always done, and expect
different results.

Examining your assumptions and beliefs with your coach requires trust and confidence in your relationship. First, you must be able to examine and explore without judgment. Next, you need a safe conversational environment to creatively explore and invent new beliefs.

“It’s all invented anyway,

so we might as well invent a story or a framework of meaning that enhances our
quality of life and the life of those around us.”

Here is what they suggest
you ask yourself: What assumption am I making,

That I’m not aware I’m making,
That gives me what I see?

When you have an answer to
that question, ask yourself this one:

What might I now invent,
That I haven’t yet invented,
That would give me other choices?

Here’s a story to illustrate:

SITUATION HOPELESS STOP NO ONE WEARS SHOES

GLORIOUS OPPORTUNITY STOP THEY HAVE NO SHOES!

If you only have yourself as a coach, you may be missing an opportunity to explore beyond your assumptions and beliefs, both the limiting and empowering ones.

Part 1

Thomas J. Watson, founder of IBM, didn"t believe the road to happiness and
success was all that complicated. In fact, he often listed their components in
balance sheet format.

"Liabilities:

Reactionary Ideas! Love of money! Unwholesome companions! Lax character!
Lack of love for others! False Friends

Assets

Vision Unselfishness Love Good Character Good manners Friendship (Real)"(1)

To Watson Sr., life was like a balance sheet. And in life, as in business,
building assets and reducing liabilities makes for good progress.

Part 2

1. Our Birth is our Opening Balance !Our Death is our Closing Balance!
2. Our Prejudiced Views are our Liabilities
3. Our Creative Ideas are our Assets
4. Heart is our Current Asset
5. Soul is our Fixed Asset
6. Brain is our Fixed Deposit
7. Thinking is our Current Account
8. Achievements are our Capital
9. Character & Morals, our Stock-in-Trade
10. Friends are our General Reserves
11. Values & Behaviour are our Goodwill
12. Patience is our Interest Earned
13. Love is our Dividend
14. Children are our Bonus Issues
15. Education is Brands / Patents
16. Knowledge is our Investment
17. Experience is our Premium Account
18. The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet Accurately.
19. The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award.

Part 3

Work Life Balance: Take Time to Create a
Life Balance Sheet for Success

It’s important from time to time that we sit down and honestly assess our lives.  Doing so allows us to make an honest determination about where we are now and where we want to be in the future.  When we’re assessing our finances, we prepare a financial balance sheet.  On it we list our debits and credits so that we can determine our bottom line.  What if you wanted to determine the state of the life you lead?  How is it, or is it not, serving you?  The answer is simple – prepare a Life Balance Sheet.  Much like a financial balance sheet, list all of your lifestyle debits (choices that detract from balance) such as the following:

• Maintaining relationships that drain you
• Constantly whining, griping, or complaining       
• Inability to say no      
• Always expecting the worse       
• Being ungrateful       
• Unwilling to listen effectively       
• Forgetting to mind your manners
• Taking others for granted

Next list your credits – ways you live your life that support and honor you.  Anything positive you count as a credit – no action is too big or too small.  Below are a few credits that add to your life’s bottom line. 

       1.      Smile – not just at people you know, but especially at those you don’t
2.      Give to others without expecting anything in return
3.      Do one thing outside of your  comfort zone that improves the quality of your life
4.      Allow someone to merge into traffic – even if they didn’t wait their turn
5.      Compliment a salesperson/clerk on a job well done
6.      Use the good crystal and china other than for a holiday
7.      Be honest about what you need to be happy
8.      Read to a child
9.      Dance to your favorite music
10.  Place your neighbors’ newspaper right outside their door
11.  Call someone just to say “hello” and to see how they are doing
12.  Buy a co-worker a cup of coffee or ice cream cone
13.  Walk barefoot in the grass
14.  Tell someone “I love you”
15.  Learn one new thing every week
16.  Every day acknowledge at least one thing in life for which you are grateful

At least once a month, create a Life Balance Sheet.  Take a look at your Life Balance Sheet at
least once a day.  This will empower you, at a glance, to realize how wonderful life can be and allow you to make lifestyle adjustments as necessary.  Remember, a great life is yours to create.  Go create a
fabulous life!

Some very Good and Very bad things ...

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Men :  Bachna Ae Haseeno......
Women : why should we .... men  are like children. It"s just that they never grow up ... so better you "bacho"
Men : whaaaat ???? , what .....

Women :  men who chase women they have no intention of marrying...is like dogs chase vehicles they have no intention of driving.

Men :  -0

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"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out"

One of my old friends came to my city. He is the friend who stand by me, when I need him , when I have trouble ,when I have short money to pay collage fee, when I have big fight in collage days :-) (Come on it all happen in collage days).

So I was too happy and want to take him all the place in city, all the restaurants in city.While going to one of good restaurant, I saw poster and it has definition of success

• Start with your dream - then start working
• Understand first, then be understood
• Create your own opportunities
• Courage, character, caring, communication
• Embrace challenges, expect no less than your best
• Simplify and maintain focus
• Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.

Some more formula for success:

1. “If A is a success in life, then A = X + Y + Z. where Work is x; y is play; and
   z is keeping your mouth shut.” - Albert Einstein
2.  “If you want to succeed, double your failure rate.” - Samuel Butlen
3.  “People always told me that my natural ability and good eyesight were the reasons for my success as a hitter.  They  never talk about the practice,
   practice, practice.” - Ted Williams
4. “Eighty percent of success is showing up.” - Woody Allen, American actor
5. “Success is made of 99 percent failure.” - James Dyson, British entrepreneur
6. “The three P’s of success: Passion, Persistence and Patience.”  - Doug BronsonIf

1. People who solve problems ,not one who come with lots of problem
2. People who Lack ego and share things/skill/thought honestly
3. Smart , who don’t get into fistfight(Rat Race) , evaluate things in all angle
4. People who follow through (no reminder needed)
5. Fun/Funny, whose company ever one enjoy

Power Mantra

Two of my good friend fall in love and got married

She keeps explaining me, See ego is like hunger and everybody has ego (little or more). Until unless you don’t feed hunger s/he will not think any thing else. If you say your problem is that you thinking too much on stomach. It is no use.  So feed hunger, once s/he satisfy , then tell what we think is right and what is wrong again make no demand just tell preferences. If you demand and keep thrashing,
it will increase his/her ego/hunger and make person more demanding. Once her/his hunger is satisfy, s/he ready to listen (that is important). In bottom of mind and heart every egoist person know what is right and what is wrong. It is his/her ego(=hunger ) that keep them away from wisdom/truth/understanding. Once his/her ego/hunger is satisfy, s/he able to concentrate on wisdom/truth and will behave more understanding way. Give person there space so he/she able to
analyze them self other wise s/he keep repeating.

I oppose again and said , this way you will make person more demanding , every time his/her ego grow up. She Said use this formula AAA, ego will never grow up. AAA means

A – Acceptance
A – Approval
A – Appreciations

She further explain relation between belief system and ego. ………..
She is from Big metro city and her husband is from Small town … and how she handle belief system clash  and culture differences  clash …….. very peace fully ……..with AAA

**Love While You Live**
Realize things before its too late.
Accept things rather than deny them.
Love people before you loose them.
 
Life comes just once.
Love it while you live it.* * *
 
S/he not the best
but S/he not like the rest

~~~ Try to create balance always , extreme of any thing is always bad ~~~

Tell the truth if you want help

A last lecture by Randy Pausch, computer scientist and professor at CMU, who has pancreatic cancer and expects to have only a few more months of healthy life. From this WSJ article:

He paid tribute to his techie background. “I’ve
experienced a deathbed conversion,” he said, smiling. “I just bought a
Macintosh.” Flashing his rejection letters on the screen, he talked
about setbacks in his career, repeating: “Brick walls are there for a
reason. They let us prove how badly we want things.” He encouraged us
to be patient with others. “Wait long enough, and people will surprise
and impress you.” After showing photos of his childhood bedroom,
decorated with mathematical notations he’d drawn on the walls, he said:
“If your kids want to paint their bedrooms, as a favor to me, let ‘em
do it.”

While displaying photos of his bosses and students over the
years, he said that helping others fulfill their dreams is even more
fun than achieving your own. He talked of requiring his students to
create videogames without sex and violence. “You’d be surprised how
many 19-year-old boys run out of ideas when you take those
possibilities away,” he said, but they all rose to the challenge.

He also saluted his parents, who let him make his childhood bedroom his
domain, even if his wall etchings hurt the home’s resale value. He knew
his mom was proud of him when he got his Ph.D, he said, despite how
she’d introduce him: “This is my son. He’s a doctor, but not the kind
who helps people.”

You Tube Video => http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo

You can watch the lecture here. And read about his cancer journey here